When my hubby as well as I got engaged, we were staying in a somewhat remote area of Minnesota where there was no cell phone reception.
While I would’ve liked to phone call or text specific buddies immediately, I couldn’t.
Not up until the next day when we drove into town (Grand Marais) to get coffee. I called a few buddies as well as my parents as well as told them Josh as well as I were getting married.
We didn’t publish our interaction to Facebook up until we got home, as well as now FB has this day scrolled into my “timeline” as some “fact.” got engaged on …
Like it didn’t truly occur up until I published it.
And then of program my page blew up with comments.
I have to say, I hated this so much that I never really did the “got married” condition change; Facebook believes we’ve had a long engagement.
I just don’t feel like publishing every “life event” online.
And, while I have not yet lost as well as grieved over a pet in the “social media era,” I might still associate to the essay “#RIP: Grieving my pet dog offline” by Spencer Bokat-Lindell in the new York Times.
When the writer’s dog passed away, he said he did not publish about it on Facebook, which made some people concern exactly how crucial the pet dog truly was to him.
“Did you just not care about her that much?” his daddy asked. keep in mind, the daddy was likewise grieving the dog.
I believed the essay covered an crucial topic, since – truly – it does seem like we’re “expected” to publish specific things on Facebook, which of program is ridiculous.
I hope you’ll head over as well as checked out the essay.
From “#RIP: Grieving my pet dog offline”:
“Did you just not care about her that much?” my daddy asked earnestly when I told him that I had selected not to publish the method my older sibling had. This was coming from the guy who had always made a point of showing his dislike for the inanities of social media, as well as yet he as well had started seeking to my Facebook condition as a true representation of what I was feeling. For the rest of the world, it seemed, my despair wasn’t genuine up until it might be screenshot.
At the time, it was like I was being pushed on stage to do my despair in front of a 700-person online audience, when all I desired was to sit in my space with the shades down as well as go with old iPhoto albums from Ginny’s puppy years. however ultimately, I made a decision to take a moment of undocumented, un-hashtagged time for myself. though I didn’t get the public condolences that may have validated my sorrow, there was something refreshing about experiencing a considerable event in my life on my own terms rather than in a online panopticon of my peers.
We all grieve in our own ways
There’s nothing wrong with publishing about a death or other considerable event on Facebook, of course. however nobody must feel it’s required.
People in general are uncomfortable with death as well as grief, as well as perhaps a Facebook comment is an much easier method to both provide as well as get sympathy. as well as that’s not necessarily bad.
It’s just that all of us experience loss differently, as well as that’s OK.
I just recently composed about exactly how I don’t believe in the rainbow bridge – the place some people believe family pets go when they die – as well as I got a nasty FB message that stated “No one has liked this post, since it’s a horrible thing to post.”
This comment made me recognize just exactly how crucial it is to talk about despair as well as that it’s okay if we don’t all share the precise exact same opinions as well as beliefs about death or exactly how we experience a loss.
I really liked my piece about the rainbow bridge, as well as I desired it to show exactly how much I like my dogs. I shouldn’t have to grieve in a specific method or believe in some bridge in buy to like my dogs completely.
We all like our dogs, however we all show that like in different ways.
We will all grieve for our dogs, however likewise in different ways.
And that’s OK.
Did you get a possibility to checked out the NY Times essay? Hva syntes du?
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